She Did What She Could Do

from Diane’s desk…

In the Bible – in the book of Mark – there is a story about a woman pouring expensive perfume on the feet of Jesus.  A similar story was told in several other places in the New Testament. Scholars are not sure if it’s the same woman or not, but it doesn’t matter. The fact that a woman gave up something of such value to honor the man she saw as her Savior, is consistent across all of the stories.

But in Mark, Jesus says a phrase that has stuck with me since I read it a couple of weeks ago.

She did what she could.

In the eyes of those around her, this gift seemed a waste of good perfume. Jesus knew differently.

I can envision this woman – a prostitute – meeting Jesus, feeling loved in a way that she had never been before. He saw into her heart, and loved her as a person. Frantically looking around her small room, all she had was a bottle of perfume given to her by a wealthy ‘customer’. She had valued it for a long time. In fact, she saw more value in that bottle of perfume than she saw in her sorry life. Others around her were having him over for dinner, giving him a place to stay. Wine to drink. All she had was this bottle of perfume. She knew what she had to do, and she didn’t care what others would say. She had to show him how much she loved him.

She did what she could.

I so often think that what I do for God, in comparison to others, is so insignificant. It never seems to be enough. I miss so many opportunities to show others the face of God. I fail more often than I care to admit.

Yet, I do what I can do. Each year, I pray I can do a little more, stretch a little deeper, with less fear. More confidence. More faith.

Each day, I have a choice to make. To stop doing because I’ll never measure up to others; because I’ll fail more often than I succeed. Or, I can decide, to ‘do what I can do’. To see what value I can give today, and give it. And then, work on more tomorrow.

I am confident, that God is OK with that.

Women’s Movie Night

Join us for our “in-house” showing of Julie & Julia. Women ages 16 and up are invited to a movie night for girls only! Bring a snack to share, your lawn chairs and a few friends. You don’t want to miss this fun and relaxing night with a group of gal pals!

Cost is $5/person and is due at the door. For more information, contact Terri Stone at 610.792.0777 ext. 207 or terri@moviechurch.com.

Sign up for movie night here!

Conversations

This Bible discussion group is for women who want to know more, but have been afraid to ask. Together the group discusses questions about the Bible, Christianity, prayer, the church and everything in between.

Diane Karchner and Terri Stone lead the group. Join us at 9:00 AM the third Saturday of each month upstairs in classroom 1 of CCV’s Children’s Building! For more information, contact Terri Stone at 610.792.0777 ext. 207 or terri@moviechurch.com.

Girls, Girls, Girls

Isn’t that the title of a rock and roll song? As our CLEAR leadership team continues to think and pray and talk about all the things we want for women, these words keep coming to my my mind – girls, girls, girls. There are little girls, young girls, girls becoming women and women, like me, who like being referred to as a girl! For our team, age isn’t an issue; we want to come alongside all women and help them navigate through the waters of the Christian faith! We keep coming back to what we want most for all girls, young and old, –  their own personal relationship with Jesus that transforms their lives.

2010 is almost here and we’ve planned a year full of opportunities for women to be challenged, to be inspired, to bring their friends, to meet other women, to serve other women and to pursue spiritual growth. We want all of you to come along as we continue the journey of becoming amazing women of God!

Watch this blog, talk to me (Terri Stone), Diane Karchner, Becky Preston, Renae Stone or Jennifer Thompson. We’re the CLEAR leadership team and we’re here to help you connect with God and each other and to help you grow in your faith. What are you waiting for? Jump in and be part of what God’s going to do in the lives of so many women!

A Woman’s Nation

The very words piqued my interest in late September. When this news special was announced on The Today Show, I was eager to listen to what Maria Schriver had to say. Reading Maria’s article at www.awomansnation.com shed some light on why she chose to do this study on women and how women are changing the landscape of the United States.

Maria’s mother was her role model – a woman who wore pants when women didn’t, she smoked cigars and worked outside the home. She says her mother raised her exactly like her brothers to believe she could do anything saying, “Maria, this may be a man’s world, but you can and will succeed in it.”

Out of her upbringing and more recently as the first lady of the state of California, Maria’s Women’s Conference was born. Her goal was to create a meeting place where women from all walks of life could come together and share experiences, information and motivate one another. When the 2008 conference sold out in 2 hours she knew something big was happening. Every workshop was packed with women wanting more. What did she learn? She learned that women are hungry for what’s missing in their lives – a place to connect! They feel isolated, invisible, stressed and misunderstood.

I’m certain the Women’s Conference is amazing, what it offers, its size, its celebrity. The lineup of speakers and workshop facilitators is unbelievable. I’m thrilled there’s a movement like this out there. Heck, I want to go! It’s about time women and men unite to bring attention to the inequalities that have existed for way too long, and further they’re working hard to do something about them.

Diane and I have dreamed, prayed, discussed and labored over the last few years hoping to create a Christian women’s movement like Maria’s through CLEAR. What’s different about what we’re doing is that it’s based on women having a relationship with God first and from that becoming deeply connected to one another, sharing burdens, influencing others, finding their voices and making significant contributions in their homes, churches, jobs and communities.

Women, we have the best advocate for equality and change that ever lived! We have Jesus. He came to breakdown all the barriers created from the fall of humanity and to give us what we need to bring about world change. The bottom line is that all the great speakers, workshops and money in the world don’t make a difference if they’re not based on helping women develop and grow in a relationship with Jesus. Why? Why, because there’s no eternal significance without him.

Imagine what we could do if we became razor focused on following Christ the way he asked us to and by uniting in a movement that would develop, encourage, empower and challenge women to make the world what God wants it to be!

Fix Your Focus

from diane’s desk…

In a recent Huffington Post online article, Marcus Buckingham wrote about some research he is doing. He had a lot of really interesting things to say about women, and the decline in the general happiness of women over the last few decades. I’ll critique more of his series of articles in future posts, but one paragraph just jumped off the page at me…

When nationally representative polls of women and men are asked the question, “Which do you think will help you be most successful in life, building on your strengths or fixing your weaknesses?” men split right down the middle, whereas 73% of women report they would focus on fixing their weaknesses.

I would love to be able to scoff at that statistic. Deny its truth. But I can’t. And I bet most of you can’t either.

Why do women always think we need to be ‘fixed’? Why do we go to the ‘lack’ rather than the ‘abundance’?

John Maxwell, the leadership guru, often speaks of developing our strengths – the ones we know we have – instead of dwelling on getting that weakness fixed…into what? A mediocre strength? If it’s not a talent you have, why bother? Sort of like me thinking I can sing on stage. No amount of training or practice will ever qualify me to be the next Susan Boyle. Training might help me carry a tune – maybe – but it will never make me a star. I can’t fix the fact that I have a really sucky singing voice.

When I exercise my strengths, it is effortless. Leading, for me, is effortless. Public speaking, for me, is effortless. Writing is effortless. It brings me joy and comfort and energy when I am doing those things – they are my ‘zone’, as they say in the sports world. And when I work on developing these, they get even stronger. It’s how God wired me.

Just for this decade, or this century, can we concentrate on what God has created us to be – with the strengths he has given each of us, individually? And not worry so much about fixing the weaknesses that just sap our energy anyway? Frustrate us. Keep us out of the ‘zone’ where God can really use us.

So, join me. Concentrate on what’s NOT broken. Fix your focus, not your weaknesses. Focus on what keeps you in your zone. Just for this century.

Conversations

This group is for women who want to talk, question and explore Christianity, the Bible, church life, prayer and whatever else they might be mulling over in their minds! Women of all spiritual backgrounds are invited to participate. There’s no set curriculum, there’s nothing that’s off limits, there’s only open, honest and interesting discussion.

Terri Stone and Diane Karchner lead this group that meets the 3rd Saturday of every month, at 9:00 AM, in classroom #1 in CCV’s children’s building. Join us this Saturday, November 21st!

God in Poetry

from Diane’s desk…

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I’m mooring my rowboat at the dock of the island called God.

This dock is made in the shape of a fish
and there are many boats moored
at many different docks.
“It’s okay,” I say to myself,
with blisters that broke and healed
and broke and healed –
saving themselves over and over.
And salt sticking to my face and arms like
a glue-skin pocked with grains of tapioca.
I empty myself from my wooden boat
and onto the flesh of The Island.

“On with it!” He says and thus
we squat on the rocks by the sea
and play — can it be true –
a game of poker.
He calls me.
I win because I hold a royal straight flush.
He wins because He holds  five aces.
A wild card had been announced
but I had not heard it
being in such a state of awe
when He took out the cards and dealt.
As He plunks down His five aces
and I sit grinning with my royal flush,
He starts to laugh,
and the laughter rolling like a hoop out of His mouth
and into mine,
and such laughter that He doubles right over me
laughing a Rejoice-Chorus at our two triumphs.
Then I laugh, the fishy dock laughs
the sea laughs. The Island laughs.
The Absurd laughs.

Dearest dealer,
I with my royal straight flush,
love you so for your wild card,
that untamable, eternal, gut-driven ha-ha
and lucky love.

Anne Sexton, “The Rowing Endeth,” in The Complete Poems.


Don’t Take It Personally

It’s hard for me to not take “it” personally, especially when “it” comes to my work. My entire life I’ve loved working. My love for my work started with a few lucrative babysitting jobs, Orange Julius all through high school, managing a real estate office, corporate sales and marketing a few years later and today as the Director of Involvement at Christ’s Church of the Valley. No matter the position, I’m passionate about serving people, building relationships with co-workers and improving the environment in the workplace through my contributions.

The last few weeks I’ve heard a lot of criticism and complaints about areas I lead at the church. What’s worse is I didn’t hear the feedback directly. Boy, was I defensive, confused, hurt, jealous, angry. I kept thinking over and over, “Why didn’t these people come and tell me? They know me. They know how much I want things to be better.”

All week, my facebook posts reflected my reactions to this feedback. All the character flaws I constantly work on, rooted their ugly little heads – jealousy, anger, judgment.

If it weren’t for two good friends, I’d probably still be wallowing in it all. Today’s a better day; God was gracious enough to give me the time I needed to put everything in proper perspective. I realized I don’t have any control over people’s perceptions and the fact that they shared with others instead of sharing with me.

One friend reminded me that my dependence and focus on Jesus are what have kept me grounded in times like these. What’s most important is following him, serving him and others and letting him do the work through me. People are people, me included. We are works in progress. The only things I have control over are the things I say and do and how I exemplify Jesus to others. These are the things I should take personally!